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Love Conquers All, Especially in Marketing Communications



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As working moms, we all stumble across communication of some kind in our respective professional arenas. Whether we’re on the marketing team, developing copy for email drop campaigns or editorial calendars, in the sales fray pitching clients to close a new deal or simply cultivating team dynamics by presenting ideas and strategies in relatable language…we all have to express ourselves in written form at some point in our careers.

You might overlook this book if you came across it online or think it irrelevant to your particular job since you don’t officially where the “writer” hat. You’d be wrong! There are a million tidbits and gems hiding in this book that can be applied to any form of communication today. Embrace the “love conquers all” mentality and try something new – see how your clients, customers and team members respond – you’ll quickly see that the service, not sales approach is really grounded in one simple word. Love.

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Here’s some background on the author of my most recent and favorite read, along with some awesome tips and tricks straight from her book –

Michele Pariza Wacek (Michele PW, for short) has a simple and infectious message for business people. It’s love, not money, that makes the world go ‘round. Love conquers all, right?


She is a marketing strategist who began writing professionally in 1992, working at agencies and on staff as a marketing/communication/writing specialist. In 1998 she started her business as a freelance copywriter. In 2006 she opened her own company Michele PW/Creative Concepts and Copywriting LLC and is the author of two books, “Love-Based Copywriting — How to Write Copy that Attracts, Inspires and Invites Your Ideal Prospects to Become Ideal Clients” and the “Love-Based Copywriting System: A Step-by-Step Process to Master Writing Copy that Attracts, Inspires and Invites”.

“Pain is a part of life. It is the body’s way of saying, ‘Hey, something is wrong.’ It is meant to prompt us to make a change. Suffering, on the other hand, is a real turn off,” Michele says. “Even if it works for you it doesn’t feel good using it. Love-based copywriting gains trust and inspires personal respect from the very first word, and enhances the perceived value of what is offered in ways that enhance and develop effective relationships with people”.

Snip20151008_6Here are some of the many ways she recommends to market and sell products and services with love, not fear.

Love-Based Tip #1: Don’t Exaggerate

Although exaggerations can come in all shapes and sizes, headlines seem to be more of an “exaggeration magnet.” This is usually because you only have a few words to not only get a lot of points across, but to also get people to sit up and take notice. But you fail if you use phrases that raise people’s BS antennas.

Instead use strong verbs and nouns that paint a picture without going overboard into exaggeration. If you’re not sure if you’re exaggerating or not, then you probably are. You’ll feel it in your gut if you’ve gone too far, so just listen to it.

Love-Based Tips #2: Write a Powerful Beginning

Much like headlines, exaggeration is a problem in the beginning of your copy too. Painting a picture that’s too dark is a good way to tip the overall feeling of your copy right into the realm of fear-based arm-twisting.

Instead, be honest and be objective. Don’t make people feel any worse than they already feel. Anticipate the reactions to the words. Aim at creating a new sense of comfort and relief. Connect with people without agitating their pain. Use the words people actually use and they will recognize you are talking directly to them.  Don’t “dress it up”.

Love-Based Tip #3: Don’t Be Afraid To Be Vulnerable

It may feel really scary to show your vulnerable side, but the truth is, many times your vulnerability is what will seal the deal — not your credibility. People need to believe you’re an expert in your field, but if you’re too much of an expert, people will feel like you can’t relate to what they’re going through. And if you can’t relate, you can’t help them.

Your vulnerability is what makes you relatable. It makes you human. People can see themselves in you. And that’s what helps them believe that, if you’re just like them and can do it, then they will conclude they can do it too.

Love-Based Tip #4:  Stick With What Works

As you work on coming up with your big picture overview, you’ll find yourself wanting to use some sort of new vocabulary to sum up what your ideal client is going through. Resist this temptation. Don’t feel the need to distill everyone’s experiences into some cute, clever, marketing speak elevator pitch/slogan you can spit out at networking meetings.  If you succumb to this, don’t be surprised when people suddenly go away to go refill their drinks.

Part of being love-based is being simple — just say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t dress it up or make it cute and clever (and whatever you do, don’t twist it and use it as a weapon against your ideal clients). Be clear, concise, open, and respectful … and everyone wins.

Love-Based Tip #5: Amplify Emotions, Not Pain

Amplifying the emotion in your message can be extremely powerful, but amplifying the pain can push your copy into fear-based marketing. To avoid going overboard, be gentle and be kind. Don’t use shame, guilt or blame. Use both techniques – amplify and resolve – in the same breadth.  Gently amplify the pain, and then immediately resolve it before the end of the sentence, so the overall feeling you leave your ideal prospects with is that of moving toward pleasure.

Love-Based Tip #6: Make Peace with Money

Don’t grapple with money. Own the value of whatever you are charging. Be comfortable with whatever price you are charging for whatever product or service you’re selling. If you’re uncomfortable with the price you are asking — people will immediately sense it. And they won’t buy. Know the value. Set your price to reflect the value. Once you know that value, then you just need to make sure you are good with it.

Love-Based Tip #7: Give People a Safe Space to Make a Decision

You can write love-based copy around objections by creating a safe space for people to feel their objections. This is a place where they can figure out if they are truly ready for change. Once they do, they can then make a comfortable decision – either yes or no. Don’t believe that what matters is getting the sale above all else. Don’t push them or twist their arm.

Instead, give people the time, space and the information they need to make up their own mind about what they truly want and what’s best for them. Create a compelling buying environment that brings people to that crucial pause where they see what they need and that you can meet their needs.

Love-Based Tip #8: Watch the Hype in Your Testimonials

Stay away from exaggeration and hype, especially in your testimonials. If you slip in too much hype, folks will have trouble either believing the testimonial at all, or believing they can get the same results. Stay with simple clear, provable statements from people that relate to your prospective clients.

If you’re an entrepreneur, small-business owner, or soloprenuer, love-based copywriting can actually make marketing fun rather than something to dread.

How can you apply the “love conquers all” mentality in your workplace? How will you engage your audience differently? How are you moving away from sales and moving towards service in your business?


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Social Media Scheduling 101: The Basics



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Why is social media scheduling important? 

Today’s culture, both personally and professionally, is driven by real time transparency. There are any of a million ways that we can interact with the world and share our life journeys, which has been the doorway to maintaining friendships, keeping family from afar close and celebrating life with like-minded individuals. But on the other hand, every time that phone blips that a new message has popped up, we’re driven by madness to look. It’s exhausting!!!! And ultimately incredibly time consuming. As a small business owner, the drive to build a following can be intoxicating and the pressure to be available to your clients 24/7 is crippling. How do you actually “do” your business if you’re always distracted by social media? Social media scheduling is the very best way to continue to curate and share content with your audience, while allowing yourself to focus on higher priorities in your personal and professional life.

If I schedule social media am I lying to my followers by “pretending” to be online when I’m not?

Any way that you can automate your workflow to save time and develop a routine, you are being true to yourself, your clients and most importantly, your family. The key is to appear to be accessible during high traffic times, but not actually be sitting there glued to your phone or computer hanging on every word uttered to the social media gods. Social media scheduling allows us to cater to multiple audiences at their individual peek times, gives us the opportunity to stay active and engaged while on the go and makes sure we have time to focus on what really counts.

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Where do I start?

I have two go-to programs that can work for even the most basic new learners (and have lots of advanced features for those in the know). And bonus…they’re FREE! What we’re moving towards is organized strategy. Social media scheduling allows you to develop a marketing strategy for your business and then execute it. You simple couldn’t do that properly on the fly and would get lost in the weeds. These next two tools can help put you on the path to a social media presence that translates to growth and long-term sustainability.

If you’re just digging into the social media behemoth, let’s put a simple tool to work for you while you get your bearings. Similar to how Instagram can cross post to Twitter and Facebook, Friends + Me can take your Google Plus posts and push them to several other platforms. I personally post to Google + and it carries over to Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn. One action = 4 social media networks.

I’ll admit, this tool can be visually tricky and take a little getting used to if you’re heavy handed with links and tags. Once you get comfortable with how your posts will appear in the different feeds, you’ll tailor your original content to work across the board. It’s a fantastic way to save time by not having to manually cross-pollinate your content to each and every platform individually. It’s a great way for new learners to “phone it in” while you up your social media knowledge and a stellar way for a seasoned social media vet to knock out a task list for simple content shares.


Hootsuite is the other tool I rely heavily on. In short, it’s a one-stop shop for me to manage all of my profiles on the various platforms that I use. In its most basic form, I schedule all Twitter activity (content sharing) in here or via their Hootlet (content curating).  I can tell you it’s really the Hootlet that is life changing. This little plugin is ridiculously awesome. It allows me to wrap up items of interest in a nice little box with a beautiful little bow instantly and schedule directly from my point of interest. I can open it up from any source and schedule a tweet/share from any of my accounts instantaneously without having to copy/paste links or images into Hootsuite itself. That save of a few clicks is amazing!!!


Here’s a snap shot of my actual Hootsuite dashboard (Don’t freak out! I have a million accounts!):
I am able to jump in between accounts and platforms with the click of a tab, and I can schedule posts from the top bar to any of my accounts with just a few clicks. Admittedly, I pay for the Pro version because I work the account with my business partner and I am in love with the bulk tweet upload feature (I can schedule 350 tweets at once just by uploading a simple Excel file!). Instead of having 15 different internet tabs open for each of my feeds and profiles, I can have one program open that allows me to move among them without having to constantly sign in and out depending on which profile I want to use. Again, the goal is to save time by reducing clicks and hops all over the internet and to streamline your visibility to the information that matters most to you. Here are the profiles my business partner and I manage either completely or to some degree on Hootsuite:


– Twitter (8 different profiles)
– Google Plus (2 business profiles)
– Facebook (4 business pages and 1 personal profile)
– Facebook groups (2 community groups)
– Instagram (3 profiles)
– Stumble Upon (1 profile)
– LinkedIn (1 profile)


Can you imagine if I had to sign in and out of each of these accounts at various parts of my day in order to engage on all platforms?


So. How does this ultimately save time? Have I just traded time spent manually posting for time spent scheduling automation? The key here is to carve out time and stick to it. Don’t be scheduling all day! It defeats the purpose. Here are some quick rules to keep in mind:

  • Set a specific day each week (or even an hour each morning/night if that’s better for you) that is devoted to scheduling the next weeks’/days’ tweets/posts/etc. Make that a calendar time in your routine. Stick to it! I do all of my scheduling first thing in the morning. That way my social media profiles are working in the background while I am completing my normal business day and any activity can just be responsive.
  • Commit to a time each evening that the phone/computer gets put away. For example, clients at The Studio now know that our business booking hours are Monday – Friday from 8AM – 5PM. If they email us during that time, they expect a response. But if they email outside of that time, they know they’ll hear from us during the next business day. We’ve educated them and we’re training ourselves. Now, when that email dings with a new inquiry, I don’t look at it if it’s after hours. They know, and I know it will be there tomorrow.
  • Give yourself a break! Cut yourself some slack! It’s ok to take a break from time to time on social media. It’s ok to not post every meal, every night out, every stylish outfit. Let go of the pressure to perform. Focus on enjoying the interactions with people and sharing your heart. You’ll find it not only comes more naturally, but more purposefully. Be IN your life. 

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IBA Blog Conference – October 12-17, 2015



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Mark your calendars!!! I have some very exciting news to share!!! The International Bloggers Association is hosting their very first IBA blog conference! The IBA Network-a-thon will be hosted online October 12th – 15th. Yup, that’s right! A virtual conference! You don’t have to worry about travel expenses, child care, vacation time or anything! Just you, me, the IBA, our computers and some amazingly awesome Google Plus Hangouts.

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Want to hear the very best news? The IBA blog conference is SUPER affordable. Only $10 for your ticket! Even more exciting? Use the code KATY to receive a special Chaos & Kiddos discount! You’ll get $5 off. 50% off! At that price, there’s no reason to miss out on what will be a fun week of networking, learning and blog sharing. The IBA blog conference will be a great opportunity to discover your tribe of blog supporters, learn new tips and tricks, and dig into blogging professionally. Don’t miss out! $5 is less than a cup of Starbucks coffee! Woot! Click on the big IBA right below or click on “Buy this on Selz” to grab your 50% off discount ticket now! Don’t forget to use the code KATY! See you in October!


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24 Super Awesome Articles for Busy Working Moms



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24 Super Awesome Articles

You may have noticed a bit of feast or famine over here at Chaos & Kiddos. Why? Because we’ve been sharing the love all over! Yup, that’s right. When we’re not here actively posting, it’s usually because we have the great honor to share our voice on other platforms. We thought you might like to keep up with where we’ve been! So…check out these 24 super awesome articles for busy working moms. Enjoy!


Need a little parenting pick me up? Look no further! Grab a cup of coffee and kick back for a good read. Pick up a few tips and tricks, and give yourself a pat on the back, because you’re doing an AWESOME job.

Am I Chipping Away at the Foundation of My Children’s Success?

Why You Need a Family Mission Statement

Want to Teach Children? Get a Family Pet

10 Tips to Get Better Photos of Your Children

Potty Training: How to Graduate from Rewards to Real Life

It Takes a Village: Today’s Isolated Mom

Working Moms

Tell the truth…We bet you’re working too hard! It’s ok. We all do. Let’s band together and give ourselves permission for a little TLC, a whole lot more community and the opportunity to thrive professionally and personally, being our best selves for those we love most.

Working Moms Get a “Free to Grow” Permission Slip from Sprout

The One Question You Should Be Asking Yourself Every Day

How I Finally Realized Being a Workaholic Wasn’t a Good Thing

Redefining Success as a Suddenly Single Working Mom

How to Combat the Working Mom Woes

Professional Opportunities for The Stay-at-Home Mom

Tips for the Working Mom: How to Excel in Both Worlds

Small Business

Our very favorite!! Sharing the tips and tricks to help your business grow, the creative ideas that are making big waves in the entrepreneurial and those little reminders that get you back on track as a motivated, focused small business owner.

Meet the U.S. Company that Beat France to the Email Ban Idea

How to Maintain a Healthy Business Partnership

The Evolution of the Social Media Management Model

With This Tweet, I Thee Wed: How to “Put a Ring on It” and Transform Your Followers Into Brand Advocates

Why I Left Corporate America

Get More Instagram Followers and Grow Your Business

The Fountain of Youth: A Childhood Lesson in Healthy Competition

The Enlightened Entrepreneur: The Best Ways to Achieve Real Success

Health and Wellness

Last, but certainly not least, the most important part. Staying healthy and being well. The journey towards balance is just that…a journey. Join us as we walk together towards a more meaningful, enriched life.

Why You Need to Renegotiate the Contracts in Your Life

Baby Steps to Balance: The Journey Towards a Better Life Begins With Your Very First Step

The Top 10 Cheerleaders You Need to Survive Your Divorce

How to Set Boundaries That Balance Your Life

Do you have any super awesome articles for busy working moms? Share them below in the comments! Let’s face it, time is a hot commodity around here, and most of us don’t have time to blog hop! So…if you’ve done us the great honor by taking time out of your busy day to stop here, then THANK YOU! From the bottom of our hearts. And if you have a resource to share, please do so! Any opportunity we have to connect a resource with a need, whether it’s our information or not, is a big win for us, and for YOU!

And that’s why we’re here. For you. XOXO

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