Purposeful Parenting
Don’t Forget! 5 Must-Haves for Drop Off at the Babysitter’s House
Dropping the kids off at the babysitter’s house might seem like a no-brainer. Drop them off with someone trustworthy, and go about your business. Your house is clean, your kids are thrilled to vacation at the babysitter’s home and life is good. Right?
It might seem simple in theory, but how many times have you reached the babysitter’s front door and realized that you forgot Mr. Bumble Bottom, your child’s most favorite item on the entire planet? Or in my case, that one tiny piece of paper they wrote 2 letters on, intending to cut it into a heart shape at the babysitter’s house and they’ll die if we don’t drive back?
Don’t worry, it has happened to all of us. We’ve all had that moment where we suddenly remember that one thing that we should have provided the sitter with. That one thing we reminded ourselves 100 times to not forget.
In order to minimize the chances of that happening in the future, here are 5 must have items for babysitter drop off! Make your babysitter’s life easier and give yourself peace of mind with these simple reminders.
Contact Information
While the sitter might have your phone number, does she have the phone number of another emergency contact to reach out to, in case you are unable to be reached? How about the place that you are going to? Does she have that phone number?
Be sure to provide your sitter with the necessary contact information in case of an emergency. Consider drafting up a little note card with all of the information she will need in case something happens. Phone numbers to include could be:
- Your phone number
- The phone number of the place where you are going (spa, restaurant, work, etc.)
- An emergency contact, such as your spouse, a family member, or other friend that can be relied upon to take action if necessary
- Primary care physician
- The poison control hotline (hey, you never know)
Consider making a few copies, and having them laminated. It never hurts to have an extra one to pass off to teachers, reliable neighbors, or close friends.
Medicine & Medical Information
Does your little one take medicine? Be sure to bring it along for the babysitter. Also, if your child suffers from any sort of illness or malady, be sure to front load your babysitter about this BEFORE you drop your kids off with them. The sitter might not be comfortable being responsible for what might happen while the kiddos are in her care, so be sure to discuss this with her ahead of time. Also, be sure to provide her with any allergies (gluten, peanut, pets, etc.) that your little one suffers from. Medicines or other treatments should come complete with clear, detailed instructions. Make sure you get a verbal confirmation to make sure the babysitter’s understanding mimics your directions.
Mr. Bumble Bottom
As discussed before, your child probably has that one toy (or piece of paper) that they NEVER leave home without. It’s name is probably something just as obnoxious as Mr. Bumble Bottom, or Terry Toots-A-Lot, Susie Sings-Too-Loud ,or piece of paper or something else horrible that was designed to make adults roll their eyes.
But, Terry Toots-A-Lot brings joy to your child, so you put up with it. For the love of God, do not leave that thing at home. Especially if the sitter you are dropping your kids off with is relatively unfamiliar to them. They will want something that helps them to feel comfortable, and for the time being, that is Terry Toots-A-Lot. Don’t forget him! Goodbyes can be hard enough when drop the kids at the babysitter’s house. Don’t open the door for the next epic tragedy that will come courtesy of your child’s dramatic interpretation of death without their must-have special friend by their side.
The Diaper Bag
Who forgets a diaper bag? Seriously? Yes. In the tizzy of trying to get everyone out of the door at a reasonable time, you will probably at some point forget the diaper bag. This is something you don’t want to leave your babysitter without. And don’t forget to replenish said diaper bag with wipes, diapers, pull-ups, formula, breast milk, bottles, snacks, juice boxes or water bottles, a few toys, and a book or two. Extra clothes are another must-have. Accidents happen and you’ll want your babysitter to be prepared with the same items you would want to have on hand. Are you kids past diaper age? Graduate to an activity pack and be sure to send sunscreen, extra clothes, a hat, water bottles and a favorite snack or toy.
Gratitude
One of the most important things you can give to your babysitter is gratitude. Be sure to thank her for everything that she does. After all, she is taking the kids off of your hands for a bit so you can do whatever it is that you need to do. That is something to be extremely grateful for. Thank her profusely for taking the kids for a few hours, and let her know that she is greatly appreciated. Even better, she let your kids in her house. That’s a miracle in and of itself. When you have a great babysitter, you want to keep them, right?
What items do you bring when you drop the kids off at the babysitters? Let me know in the comments below!
In today’s world, technology is everywhere from our kitchens, to our offices, to our cars. We use smartphones every day not just for work, but also for play. Maybe you’re reading this article on your phone right now. Some moms are worried about the impact of such widespread technology on their kids’ education. They may be worried that all the cell phones, computers, and smart TVs in today’s environment are too distracting for young people.
However, technology is a real part of children’s future careers. It can help kids learn any subject, especially when robotics are involved. More and more mom blogs are discussing the intersection of learning and technology, it seems like it’s the blogger’s choice as long as it’s relevant to their children’s education.
There are even competitions sponsored by everyone from the government to colleges for children to really show off what they’ve learned. One example is the Robot Olympics and another one is the Robots 4 Us video challenge. No matter where you are, there’s a fun way for your kids to learn about STEM and STEAM — science, technology, engineering, art and math — in an educational, engaging way.
One great place to start is by watching some videos and making robots at home. These fun, futuristic tutorials help kids learn how to make all kinds of things, like a motorized coloring machine, and more.
If your kids really like at home projects and watching robotics videos, why not try an afterschool program or a summer camp. There are many options out there for any curious boy or girl of any age. One first step to take is to look up your state and school district on the Afterschool Alliance page to check out what’s available.
Today’s technological options might seem a bit too new to those of us in the older generation, but they’re really not so scary. Kids can have fun and learn skills at the same time. The economy of the future is becoming more and more focused on technology and STEM skills.
By getting your kids into robotics, whether it’s a summer camp, an after school program, or an at home project, you’re giving them a future edge not only in school, but in their career as well. And as a parent, you’ll also learn valuable skills for your own career, as well as having lots of good, clean, family fun.
Being a single working mom of twins and a teenager means I often put myself at the bottom of the to do list. Whether I’m playing chef, chauffeur, bandager of boo boos or homework advisor, the hat I put on least often is woman. As a married working mom, I practically forgot I was a beautiful woman and wife. As a single working mom, I struggle to embrace myself as a confident available woman. Focused mainly on carrying my family through the days, I forget that taking the time to focus on myself every once in awhile ultimately makes me a better parent. Here are some fun self care tips for working moms that could spark that little feisty woman you know is in there but haven’t seen in forever.
1. Boudoir Shoot: Yup. I’m certain a great many of you just went “Yeah, right. Thanks for nothing.” WAIT! Seriously…I know this is what I do for a living, and I’m not listing this one at the top of the list as a shameless plug. I’m listing it at the top of the list because of the why behind what I do as a photographer. Our tagline at Modern Femme Photography is “because you deserve to feel beautiful.” A boudoir shoot is a fabulous way to celebrate and embrace your unique journey as a woman, be pampered, but most importantly, be reminded that you are beautiful, just as you are. And because it’s important to practice what you preach, I hopped in front of the camera a couple of weeks ago as part of a two-session process I’ve planned to reclaim my confidence and self-worth as a newly single woman.
2. Support Group: We have a great online community growing at Working Moms United that gives support and encouragement at those low points where being a work mom chips away at your energy, self-esteem and willpower. It’s a wonderful resource for moms on-the-go who need a pep talk but can only pop online here and there or might not have available time to meet up with others. I’ve also recently joined a local church and have been attending their quarterly women’s brunches. They provide child care for a few hours while I sit and chat with other women, feel refreshed and feel supported in prayer as a woman of faith. I’ve also identified a few key accountability partners in my life. Girl friends with similar life circumstances who can serve as trusted encouragers and keep me on track.
3. Learn Something New: Switching up the routine and enjoying something fresh and new can be a great way to recharge. Recently, I booked a makeup lesson with Dhalia Edwards of The Bride’s Corner. Dhalia is not only a dear friend of mine, but she’s incredibly talented both in her technique and her warm-hearted care of her clients. She patiently took 3 hours of her day to sift through my old, dated make up, repurpose old tools for new styles and teach me proper application techniques for everyday looks. Not only did I feel pampered and pretty when I left, but I felt rejuvenated and more confident in how to achieve a flawless look on my own.
4. Schedule Quiet Time: Spare minutes are a hot commodity for the working mom. Every second of every day feels tied to a never-ending to do list that typically revolves around everyone other than yourself. You need to make a choice to declare a bit of each day for yourself. Whether it’s 5 minutes, 20 minutes or the luxurious full hour, diligently schedule quiet time. Take the time to breathe in the quiet, write in a journal, pray, speak out gratitudes, do a few yoga stretches…whatever your peace may be. Do not allow yourself to skimp on this part of your day.
Remember, the first step towards being a better mom is being a better you. That better you needs some TLC! It may feel overwhelming or even scary to put any of these self care tips for workings moms into practice, but trust me, you’ll be glad that you did. Remember the positive, reclaim your beauty, refresh your soul and recharge!
I don’t know about you but the end of the year brings two thoughts…well, three thoughts for me. One, CHRISTMAS!!!!! Two, fresh start on January 1st! And three, holy cow, what’s my money situation? Taxes are coming.
A big, big thank you to Kristen Robinson, SVP of Women and Young Investors at Fidelity Investments for taking the time to develop these year-end money tips for working moms and female entrepreneurs!
2 Tips for Female Business Owners / Entrepreneurs:
Keep Your Future in Mind with the Right Retirement Account for Your Needs
- Look into the different plans available to business owners, such as a 401(k) for Small Business, a self-employed 401(k), SEP IRA or SIMPLE IRA. You may need to appoint a plan administrator- someone who takes care of administrative responsibilities and ensures the plan is operating according to the Plan Document. Learn more about these different types of accounts here.
- Contribute to your account. The deadline for depositing employer profit-sharing contributions for the current calendar year is generally the business’ tax-filing deadline, plus extensions (for unincorporated businesses, this date is usually April 15 of the following year, plus any extensions).
Business Succession
- If you own a business, have you considered how best to plan for the future? If you plan to keep it in the family, consider creating a structure that makes it easier to transfer the business’s assets to other family members, such as a family limited partnership or a family limited liability company.
- There are many options; your attorney or tax adviser can help you select one that is appropriate for you in light of your specific situation.
4 Tips for Single Moms:
Get Involved in Your Family’s Finances
- It’s important to have a full picture of the family financial situation. At minimum, know what accounts you have and with whom. That includes banks and investing accounts, life insurance, mortgages, and loans. Having a handle on this information is an important foundation as you plan for the future, and can bring greater peace of mind.
(EDITOR’S NOTE: Yes! Yes! Yes! I am still getting a grip on my finances after the divorce. I realize now how little I knew before and how problematic that can be.)
Save for Retirement
- Retirement is not a destination but a journey, and it’s never too early – or too late – to start putting away savings for the future. Along the way, there are myriad opportunities to get off the path—and back on it. And at virtually any turn in the road, there are possibilities to speed up your progress.
- Make it a goal to save 15% or more of your income each year. If that’s not reachable today, make sure to make it a priority to carve out what you can. Even smaller amounts will add up over time.
- Aim to have no more than 50% of your take-home pay go toward your “must-have” expenses.
Try to Save Three to Six Months of Essential Expenses in an Emergency Fund.
Look for Growth Potential from your Investments
- Knowing your financial personality can help you determine the right mix of stocks, bonds and short-term investments that match how comfortable you are with risk, and have the growth potential to meet your life’s needs, be that when you want to retire or when you want to send kids to college.
- If you’re not sure where to start, read up online, or reach out to a professional. There’s never a fee to come into Fidelity to talk to a financial planner, but we do recommend you reevaluate twice a year. Just like you take care of your physical health by visiting the doctor and dentist, think of this as taking care of your financial health, which is vitally important as well.
Protect your Legacy
- In order to ensure that what you’ve accumulated is distributed to your children, family and causes you care about most, it is important to name beneficiaries and create a will and health care proxy. Yes, it can be uncomfortable to think about the ‘what it’s,’ but it’s important to be prepared for the unknown. Do you really want someone else making these decisions for you?