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Feeling Lost in a Divorce Here’s What You Need to Do

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“About half the marriages end up in divorce.”

We have all heard that phrase time and time again.

Whether it’s a casual lunch, a laid-back brunch, or a holiday dinner, the topics of marriage and divorce could slide in at any time to turn into a heated discussion.

At times, you can’t help but feel frustrated about the ubiquitous nature of the subject, but then there are moments when you appreciate the reason why it is discussed at all.

Marriage is an important institution of any society. No matter which gender or social belief you belong to, the way marriage projects the image of ultimate commitment between two people is something that cannot be surpassed by any other social construct.

With the above being understood, there are times when said commitment falls apart. And when you witness such a thing happening to your own self or someone you love, then the disappointment only grows twofold and the feeling of being lost with no hint of what to do gets to creep up on you.

Thankfully, you do not always have to bear the burden all by yourself.

What to Do When Your Marriage Gets Challenged?

In most cases, chances are that the events leading up to the final rift have been bubbling up for years with underlying arguments. On the other hand, the decision for divorce could come out of nowhere, such as one partner finding out about the other’s infidelity.

Whatever the reason might be, the after-effects of a separation can be more than daunting to deal with, which means that you will not be on your best to fend against the curveballs that are thrown at you during the process through legal procedures and emotional turmoil.

That is why, when all efforts to reconcile have failed, the first thing on your agenda should be to find a competent divorce solicitor who could protect your best interests on your behalf.

By finding someone who could not just tell but defend your end of the story, you can ensure that you could come out through the other end while keeping your self-confidence as intact as humanly possible.

Prioritize Your Family

When the process of divorce also involves children, then the difficulties only grow for both partners.

No matter who is at fault from the perspective of the other, oftentimes, both partners agree that children will be needing both parents in order to have as much stability in their lives as possible. However, there are times when the whole reason for divorcing your partner is for your family’s safety.

Whatever the case may be: whether you want to ensure that the family-related proceedings go as amiably as possible or want to make sure that your family is saved from possible endangerment by getting you sole custody, finding the best protection possible in the form of a family lawyer is the only prudent thing to do.

At the end of the day, you will need to protect what is left with you. That is why, having someone on your side who understands your perspective is something that would be integral to knowing that you are doing everything you can to do what’s best for your family.

Don’t Give in to Bad Thoughts

Since divorce can be such a life-changing event, it holds the power to alter your thought process and the way you look at your day to day life. This also involves aspects that are not related to marriage, such as your work or your dynamics with friends.

It is not uncommon to fall into a depression after divorce. This is why you need to ensure that you are self-aware enough to notice the symptoms and seek for help when you need it the most. Knowing the signs also helps when you are witnessing a loved one going through a divorce, since around half the marriages do end up in divorce, whether we like that fact or not.

Remember, while separating from someone you loved romantically at one point in time is never an easy thought, you need to remind yourself that you are still needed by people who truly care for you and who require you the most during this difficult time.

Therefore, keep a clear mind, focus on what’s important in life, and you would be able to go through the process with your head held high.

Hey all! Big thanks to Katy Blevins for handing over the reins to me at the end of 2017 to fulfill my new years resolution to write...often! Based in Miami, you can find me blogging about family life as a mother of two young kids. But i'll also continue the Chaos and Kiddos theme of business, fashion, parenting, product reviews, and...well, I could go on and on.

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3 Reasons to Keep Old Family Photos

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The decision of whether or not to hang onto family keepsakes is often an emotional one. We can be torn between the need to declutter and the guilt of getting rid of memories. And in the case of family photos, this decision is even harder. After all, they are things you can never replace once they’re gone. For that reason and many more, most people decide to keep them and just find creative ways to store them. But in case you’re still on the fence, here are just a few good reasons not to throw them away.

Old family photos preserve history

The first photograph was taken in 1826 or 1827 by a man in France. It was created using a method he was experimenting with, called heliography. At this point and for many years after, all photos were produced on tin plates. But what’s amazing to realize is that before this, the only images of our ancestors would be pictures people drew. This was a rare skill usually reserved for people of royalty and wealth.

While your family photos might not date back that far, the history of the photograph is still pretty valuable. Without them, we wouldn’t have the clear view of events, trends, and history we do today. Old photos can give us a glimpse into other eras and help us discover what people wore, drove, and ate. But aside from that, these pictures tell your history, which is something that can be passed down to the next generations.

There are many convenient ways to store old photos

Lack of storage space is why many people choose to dispose of keepsakes, clutter, and old photos. But with today’s technology, there’s no need to worry about that. With the development of cloud photo storage, you can easily upload thousands of images to access any time and from anywhere you want. This also makes it easy to share your photos with family members through email or other methods. You can also print any out that you wish by uploading them to a local or mail-in photo lab.

But if you’d rather not destroy the originals, you can also purchase organizers for your prints. Many photo supply stores sell storage systems, such as sectioned boxes, acid-free albums, or plastic files where you can neatly stack and sort the prints for compact storage in small spaces. Of course, even if you do choose to keep the physical copies, it’s still a good idea to scan them into a cloud-based system for back up.

Old photos make great artwork

If you have any open spaces you’d like to decorate, old family photos are a great solution. You can have them professionally enlarged and framed, or you can have them made into canvas prints. Canvas prints are perfect for spots over the fireplace or large walls that you can’t quite seem to fill, but they’re also much cheaper than framed and matted prints or expensive artwork you might purchase from a local vendor. The statement they make is much more personal and elegant than any piece of art you can buy.

If you’re fortunate enough to still have a piece of your family’s history preserved through old photos, don’t take it for granted. Some people never have the chance to see these types of images because their photos were lost or destroyed. Take the time to preserve these memories to pass down to your children. They’re an important part of your past and your family should be able to cherish for generations to come.

 

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A Unique Travelling Experience for the Family

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With spring break currently in full force and summer just around the corner, you and your family may be using the free time to plan for a big vacation during the extended summer holidays.

If going to Disneyland or another theme park sounds too typical or superficial, then you can look at the options for short-term educational tours.

Centered around the concept of offering a diverse range of educational fun for the whole family, these tours can prove to be the perfect mix of knowledge and joy for all ages.

To help you form an informed opinion about taking an education tour, here are a few reasons why such a tour could be a fun, enthralling and unique travelling experience for your family.

It Can Provide Firsthand Experiences

Developed with the very thought of teaching through different aspects, an educational tour lets you and your family learn new things during your travels.

You are no longer limited to using your imagination to interpret someone else’s words or using your vision to appreciate a picture on your screen. Instead of only reading about faraway places and their various traits, you can actually experience them firsthand by living through them together with your family. This allows you to use all of your senses to experience things as they are in real life.

This lets you and your family have a greater understanding of what it actually feels like to be in a place instead of just reading about it. That by itself enables all of you to use that experience in a variety of aspects such as work, school and personal life.

It Lets You Appreciate What is There in the World

Whether you are learning about the ancient ruins of Machu Picchu or getting Spanish lessons from locals in Ecuador, an educational tour can introduce you to newfound appreciation and understanding of different cultures and places.

This makes sure that you are no longer limited to filtered sources of information. You can learn the basics of several languages, study the topics of various cultures, and absorb the knowledge of how life is in different places of the world.

It lets you and your family develop empathy for the planet and its inhabitants, and that allows you to make better decisions in your everyday lives.

It Makes You More Confident

Traveling to different places and learning about the life there doesn’t only educate you from a perspective of knowledge, but it also helps you grow from a personal aspect. 

Since you and your family members are able to learn through different experiences of various people and explore sights that you have never traveled before, all of you get to grow more confident, perceptive and knowledgeable from the experience.

As such, you are ready to take on any challenges that life throws your way. The older people in your family could learn to apply these skills at their workplace, while younger members could use this assertiveness during their school and college with ease. All in all, it helps you boost your performance, and lets you apply your newly gained education in various aspects of life.

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Drag Your Kids Into Nature. It’s Good For Health and Wellbeing

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Studies show that spending two hours a week in nature is good for the health and wellbeing of adults and children.  In contrast, spending too much time in front of a screen surrounded by the proverbial concrete jungle is detrimental to psychological and physical wellbeing.  Sitting for long periods with no exercise has been linked to debilitating diseases such as diabetes and cancer. Experts also conclude that too much screen time causes, near-sightedness, insufficient sleep, headaches and obesity – all of which can have a negative effect on the psychological maturity of children.  If your kids are devouring too much screen and not enough green, its high time you dragged them into nature. The short-term and long-term health depends on it.  Connecting with Nature Connects You With People  Several studies have shown that connecting with nature is therapeutic. The Japanese understand this so well that ‘forest bathing’ or shinrin-yoku is deeply ingrained in their culture.  Although scientists are not sure how or why, but it appears humans have an intrinsic connection with the natural environment. You probably know from experience that being in the great outdoors restores your energy and vitality. If you can’t escape the concrete jungle by heading out into the countryside or mountains, take advantage of green spaces near your home. Even playing in the park gives you children an opportunity to connect and socialise with other kids in your neighbourhood – and any type of non-internet related connection is good for their development.  Nature Reduces Stress and Anxiety  Researchers have discovered that being around nature reduces stress, fear and anger. Living in these unprecedented times, children probably feel more emotional and afraid than they might ordinarily.  During the lockdown and school closures, there is also more of a tendency for your children to watch TV more often, playing computer games, or spending more time on social media and the internet. More screen time is potentially damaging to their wellbeing.  Heading out into nature will help to distract their minds from the concerns they have about Covid-19. Being outdoors feels more natural to children, and psychologists recommend that you should try to make life as normal as possible.  Encourages Children To Develop A Healthy Lifestyle We often take the experiences and habits we develop as children into adulthood. By nature, we are habitual creatures and reenact similar behaviours throughout life.  Teaching the little ones positive and healthy behaviours from an early age stands them in good stead when they get older. Show your children the benefits of being in nature now and they are more likely to make an effort to head for the hills when they are older. They will also be a better influence on their children – your grandchildren.  I appreciate nature walks may not be all that appealing to kids. However, I have a cunning plan. Why not introduce a variety of games to play that are fun, help to educate your kids and give them plenty of exercise. If you need some ideas of fun games to play with children in nature, check out this awesome list

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