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Tell me it’s not true! School has already begun?

These are the thoughts of millions of moms around the world, as they enter into the first few weeks of the school year.

Are you prepared? Do you know what you need to do to stay at the top of your game as a mom with kids in school?

For the past 28 years, number one best-selling author, counselor and life coach David Essel has been helping millions upon millions of people every year get into the practice of self-care, and moms, you might need this more than anyone.

Below, David talks about the six key self care tips, they can help you keep sane, during the school year.

Almost 20 years ago, I worked with my first mom who was having a serious anxiety attack 30 days into the school year.

She was nervous and anxious, because one of her children was going into first grade, and the other child was going to high school… Two daunting experiences for most children in their lifetime.

And she was really feeling their anxiety, and her own.

So, we sat down, over the period of several months, and went over all the most important self care tips that she needed to be following in order to be at her best.

The problem is that she wasn’t doing any of them, and actually felt guilty and filled with shame that she was looking at taking time for herself when she really needed to be putting all of her free time into her children and family.

But she was wrong.

Many women, many moms are wrong when it comes to the amount of time they put into their own self-care versus that of their children and family.

Below, are the six most important key self care tips for all moms to follow, when you have children in school:

Number one. Exercise. I know, I know, I know. You have no time.

Nonsense.

Everyone has time to exercise, it’s whether you want to make it a priority or not.

Exercise of any type releases endorphins in the brain, feel good chemicals, anti-depressant chemicals, that can keep your mood elevated even when you’re going through the stressful experiences that your children are.

What type of exercises is best? The answer to this question is really easy: the type of exercise you’ll do on a regular basis. That’s it. No secrets. That’s it.

So, if you’re into yoga, Pilates, running, weight training, Zumba classes… I could care less what you’re into, just get engaged in the activity 3 to 4 days a week at minimal.

Do you hate all of the above?

Then walk dammit. I’m laughing as I write that, don’t take it personally, it’s just the truth.

No excuses when it comes to exercise. If you want to walk, or that’s the only thing you’ll do, 30 minutes a day minimal, seven days a week is what you need to try to say sane in this world.

Number two.   Stay in close touch with your children’s teachers. Don’t be a nag, but I recommend at least every two weeks to touch base and ask their teachers about your children’s behavior, performance, effort and the end result of their work.

Now for the millions of teachers out there that are also moms that are reading this, you’re probably going to be pissed off at me right now because I’m recommending parents to stay close in touch with you.

It’s OK that you’re irritated with me, but I can tell you from experience, that the very best thing a parent can do is to be in close contact with the only other person that has her children more than she does on a daily basis: teachers.

Number three.  Eat every 3 to 4 hours. Your energy levels, which is tied 100% into your blood sugar levels, need to be elevated throughout the day in order to reduce the chances of irritability, impatience, yelling… At the simplest thing that your children do.

We have found with all of our clients, when they eat every 3 to 4 hours a combination of protein and vegetables or a small amount of fruit, that they dramatically decrease their irrational reactions to the children’s behavior before and or after school. Never, ever, ever skip meals. Every 3 to 4 hours, eat something healthy.

Number four.  Remember, your children are children. I don’t care if they’re six, or 16, they’re kids.

Recently, one of my clients with a 14-year-old child, a young girl, snuck out of the house when she had a sleepover, got in a car full of boys, and they went on a joy ride at midnight.

Everyone was safe, no one got hurt, and when her daughter came back to the house she was filled with guilt and shame for breaking the rule surrounding not leaving the house during a sleepover.

Many parents would absolutely flip out, ground their children for six months or do some other outrageous rages disciplinary action… Because they’re being freaking children.

The role of the child, as they age, is to learn to become independent. To live on their own. To make their own decisions. And guess what mom and dad? They’re going to make mistakes.

If you were the perfect child, good for you, but that’s not normal. Most children will try to push boundaries and territories and we must be firm, without being ridiculous.

My client, recommended when she talked to her former husband, that they take away her privilege for sleepovers for several weeks, and get her involved in community action, whether it’s picking up trash on the side of the road or some kind of service… Which I told her was a brilliant move.

Her husband? He didn’t see it that way. He wanted to be the big bad Wolf. He wanted to go after and beat the hell out of the boys in the car. He wanted to take away her phone and ground her for months. He was being a bully, I’m sorry I’m just gonna call it the way it is.

If you can’t sit down and talk with your children, with a consequence yes, and not bully them and berate them and beat them down, you suck as a parent.

Please get into counseling with someone who can teach you How to be a reasonable adult. If this irritates you, you need a lot of counseling.

And if you really think I’m wrong? Hire me for eight weeks, I’ll work with you one on one and teach you how to be a phenomenal, loving, boundary setting parent… Something this world needs more of.

Number five.   relaxation techniques. Get involved with meditation, deep breathing, you can go and google my relaxation video on YouTube, a brief meditation, and do it every day.

It doesn’t matter if it’s four minutes a day or 30 minutes a day, get into the habit of doing breathing or meditation exercises. I recommend guided breathing or guided meditation, so you don’t have to try to do something that is so foreign for most of us.

This will lower your anxiety, decrease a percentage of depression, boost immune system functioning and much more.

Number six.  Journal every day. Right about the great things your kids are doing, and the challenges they’re offering you. Balance your writing. But get it out of your head on paper, and then you can actually share that with a counselor, minister, priest or life coach if you run into serious parenting issues.

Over the last almost 30 years, I’ve worked with children as low as 10 years of age who are filled with either anxiety or anger all the way up to 18 years of age as they were preparing to leave high school and go on their own… Struggling with alcohol, drugs, peer pressure and more.

There’s a darn good chance as a parent you’re going to need a support system outside of friends and family, once again a counselor, therapist or a life coach could be a saving adjunct, or tool, to your parenting experiences.

Over the last 40 years, I have had the greatest opportunity in the world, to learn how to be a parent to four different children.

A role model. At first, I was overly demanding, yes, I was a bully, and that was in 1980.

Recently, three years ago, I became the male role model for a beautiful 10-year-old little girl who now is 13 1/2, who never had a consistent, loving, caring, male role model… And it is been the most incredible experience for both of us.

But hold on Sally! That doesn’t mean it’s been easy. I’ve had to use incredible patience, outrageous communication skills, and allow her to grow at her rate… Not my rate.

Think about that as a parent.    I know, by following the above six tips, you can rock your own world, and become the parent that maybe you’ve always wanted to have in life.

About David

David Essel‘s work is highly endorsed  by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny McCarthy says “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.“

His 10th book, another number one bestseller is called “focus! Slay your goals, the proven guide to huge success, a powerful attitude and profound love. “

His work as a counselor and life coach has been verified by psychology today, and marriage.com verifies David’s work as one of the top relationship counselors and experts in the world.

If you’d like to bring David into your organization as a speaker, or take advantage of his free 15 minute jump start counseling session on the phone, contact us right now at www.davidessel.com by mentioning where you read this article!

Hey all! Big thanks to Katy Blevins for handing over the reins to me at the end of 2017 to fulfill my new years resolution to write...often! Based in Miami, you can find me blogging about family life as a mother of two young kids. But i'll also continue the Chaos and Kiddos theme of business, fashion, parenting, product reviews, and...well, I could go on and on.

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Moms and the Side Hustle: Making Extra Money for the Family

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Have you heard about mompreneurship? It’s a new trend in the world of entrepreneurship. Momtrepreneurs describes women who start or run their own company while also serving as a full-time parent. There’s no denying that balancing work and family obligations is extremely challenging. Heck, being a full-time mom is a major job all by itself. That said, the rise of technology is providing moms with more opportunities to earn money. Successful momtrepreneur stories are becoming more prevalent. Here are best practices for stay-at-home moms to earn extra money and become momtrepreneurs themselves.   

Sell Sell Sell

If you have a knack for arts and crafts, there is a marketplace for you. In fact, you can sell your products on sites like Etsy, Ebay, Amazon Marketplace and Facebook. Think of creating and then selling products that suit the season. For example, summer is fast approaching and people will be outside. Have you ever thought to build your own bike and then sell it? Many people earn money by putting their hybrid bikes for sale. While there may be selling fees on certain sites, the pros heavily outweigh the cons – the cost of supplies are minimal, and you can work on a schedule that is convenient for you.

Share Your Skills

It’s time to take advantage of your talents and passions. Discover what they are and use them to make money. For example, if you are gifted at math, become a math tutor. Job sites frequently have postings for virtual tutors. Tutoring is also effective if you can advertise to fellow parents. You can help their kids and do it from the convenience of your own home. The same can be said for any number of skills. Are you good at piano? Guitar? Saxophone? If so, how about sharing your talents by offering music lessons to kids in the neighborhood or to classmates of your children? What about fashion? You can post tutorials on YouTube or begin a blog. If enough people visit your pages, businesses may advertise with you.

Online Marketing
Whatever your side hustle, it’s important to sell yourself. You must have an online presence, as a quality website is essential for almost any type of business. If a person is seeking information, they are probably using the internet to find it. When they look for a service or product you offer, you need to show up in their search results and look professional. A website is often the first impression a company puts forth to potential customers. It’s imperative that first impression is a good one. Make sure your site is mobile-friendly, accurate, visually appealing and informative (location, contact information, hours of operation, etc.). Make sure to have active social media representation as well – this includes pages on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn.

Business Cards
In addition to an online presence, market yourself with business cards. Your business card is your brand, serving as a showcase for you and your organization. A business card serves as a physical product that can meet real-word, face-to-face needs. It provides customers and contacts with something tangible that can be referenced later when they are thinking about products or services pertinent to your industry. You can get creative (double sided business cards) or stay traditional (classic business cards) but remember to design a piece that is identifiable, visually appealing and professional.

The rise of the internet has made it easier than ever to make money from home. You can earn extra cash by selling products, sharing your skills and marketing yourself. Ladies, it’s time to join the long list of successful momtrepreneurs.

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No more wasting time trawling online shops – the online shopping centre is here

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Lets face it, our lives are busier now than ever. Work life balance is a constant struggle and when you’re trying to juggle a family, work, keeping fit and healthy, running a household and try to have some semblance of a social life any little thing that gives back some precious time is well worth it.

One thing that seems to be a huge time stealer is shopping. Dragging yourself and the family to the local high street or retail park is time consuming, often stressful and generally not enjoyable. There are definitely better things to be doing.

Of course there is always online shopping. No need to leave the sofa during those precious spare 5 minutes you have after the children have done to bed but before you have to run around preparing for the following day.

After all any retailer worth their salt invests heavily in a decent online presence. The perfect answer. Greater choice, 24/7 access, competitive prices and delivery straight to your door. It is no wonder it is the busy person’s go to for all their household needs.

Yet even that is becoming tiresome. With access to shops from all round the world, the web is now reaching saturation point. Busy shoppers are becoming overwhelmed by the sheer volume and spend hours trawling hundreds of retailers for the right product at the right price.

Step forward the next generation of online shopping – online shopping centres like Buyviu UK have finally opened their digital doors to the British shopper.

Anything you could possibly need, all in one place

Of course the real benefit of online shopping is speed and convenience, any time by any device you happen to have to hand. We want to get what we need quickly and easily so we can get on with whatever the next thing is on our mental to do list.

What we don’t want to be doing is spending hours scrolling and scrolling through hundreds of sites looking for a good price. This is why the online shopping centre is a master stroke. It takes all of that scrolling away doing all the hard work.

It brings together hundreds of retailers and thousands of products in one easy to use site. Imagine going to the biggest shopping centre in the world but without the crowds, the nightmare parking and bored kids.

Buyviu UK does exactly this, bringing together everything from fashion, jewellery and shoes to grocery staples, car parts, home and garden accessories and appliances and sports equipment. It is quite literally a one-stop-shop.

You can find anything you could possibly need for home, family and the odd little treat for yourself. So instead of wasting a whole weekend visiting the garden centre, the pet store, the car garage, the craft shop, numerous clothing stores, the sports store and the home appliance store, you can save yourself hours and not even move from the sofa. Sounds great right?

The range available in this online shopping centre is incredibly wide ranging. Whether it is school supplies for the kids, household appliances, pet accessories and even food. It has everything.

In the fashion section you can find all the top brands in clothing, footwear, jewellery and sports, from Nike and Adidas to Swarovski and Marc Jacobs. And if you are looking for gifts, there is a huge range of toys and baby products or beauty and home products.

So if you find yourself needing a new lawn mower at the same time as a new clarinet – Buyviu have got you covered.

It even sells car parts, sports equipment and arts and crafts. With such a lot of choice, navigating the website needs to be carefully planned. Buyviu make this easy, organising categories by brand or type, with the ability to search and filter by size, price, colour, merchant and material across all products. No matter what you need Buyviu will find it for you and get you to that shop to make your purchase.

Top brands right at your fingertips

The great thing about an online shopping centre is the easy access to all the top brands you know and love. Brands like ASOS, Dolce & Gabbana, Adidas, Nike, Zanussi, Bosch and other well known household names is second to none.

The baby range is particularly good with brands like Baby Bjorn and Bugaboo easily accessible. The site covers everything from potties, to prams and car seats and of course clothes for children of all ages for when they inevitably grow out of absolutely everything in record time.

Within a couple of clicks you have access to hundreds of retailers. There is just no need to spend hours on the internet going for site to site when it is all in one place for you already.

To make it even better, there is also an easy to access outlet section, all year round. The site pulls in discounted products across all the ranges and retailers and puts them in one easy to search location.

No more waiting for seasonal sales, or a long drive to the nearest outlet village for bargain hunting. Shoppers can do it all from the comfort of their sofa.

Discounts on well known brands are incredibly tempting, in places as much as 70% off, with a much greater choice. It is no wonder that shoppers prefer to spend their hard earned cash online, and the great filtering and search speeds the whole process up considerably.

Take back your free time and go and enjoy yourself

So with all those household needs met, and money saved from super bargains, all you need to do know is decide what to do with your spare time instead. Now you can avoid the weekend shopping chaos why not do something more fun for all the family? Nothing is more important and why not make the most of it.

We finally have a new way to surf the net for purchases. The online shopping centre is the way forward for busy people everywhere.

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If you’re interested in starting a small business in Florida, one of the first things you need to consider is the current climate in your chosen industry. You don’t want to launch into a field that’s oversaturated while also offering a minimal demand from the public. Differentiation is key, but you should also look for indicators that there’s a strong customer base for your goods and services in a particular area. A souvenir shop will do well in parts of Florida where tourism is high, while a business focused on home repair services is best situated among residential neighborhoods.

Florida is a welcoming state for small businesses. In fact, over 99 percent of businesses in the state are classified as small businesses. This means that you’ll be in good company here, but you’ll also have a lot of competition. At the end of 2016, 18,474 small businesses shut down. Make sure your company isn’t among those to close their doors by taking care of your due diligence before you make that first sale. Planning is critical for new business owners who want to achieve long-term financial success.

From labor costs to tax laws, there’s a lot that you need to know about the area that you choose for your new business venture. Florida offers a wealth of benefits for prospective entrepreneurs. Learn more about the small business climate in the Sunshine State with this infographic. You’ll get valuable details to help you pick the perfect spot for your next venture.

 

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