Multi-tasking has been a talent listed on my resume for years…it’s one of my hot words when it comes to how I “do it all.” This buzz word has been the super star employee that HR managers hunt for, the dream team “must-have” for any busy department. But as it turns out, multi-tasking might just be a myth. What?! Thanks to the Hampton Roads Chamber of Commerce Professional Women’s Leadership Luncheon Series and the brilliant mind of Roberta Oster Sachs, I recently learned an important lesson that has me removing “multi-tasking” from my vocabulary and replacing it with a new word – “mindfulness.”
For her presentation “The Power of Mindfulness: Grow Your Business and Enhance Your Life,” Roberta Oster Sachs had us complete a simple exercise with two parts. First, we had to write “I am a great multi-tasker” and then second, we had to write the numbers 1-20. Most of us finished in about 20 seconds.
Then she had us do the exercise again. Except this time, we had to alternate between the two tasks. Meaning, we had to write “I” and then “1” and then “a” and “2” and “m” and “3,” and so on and so forth. Easy, right? Well, most of us fabulous, multi-tasking rock stars took a whopping 3-4 times longer to complete the same exercise with this new method. Multi-tasking didn’t just slow us down, it crippled us.
She challenged us to admit that the mind is a one lane road, and that we must stop the “always on,” information overload to become truly effective. Managing our attention contributes to overall success, better health and peace of mind. But how do we get there?
By following two simple rules, you can rebuild the multi-tasking brain into a mindful one.
- Set a time frame to focus on whatever you choose.
- She used the example of writing an email. She allotted 20 minutes to write the email.
- Choose your distractions mindfully.
- These circumstances were ignored – phone ringing, office gossip, online notifications.
- This scenario was attended to – boss requesting immediate help for a crisis.
Roberta Oster Sachs rounded out her presentation with the mental, practical and social requirements to put multi-tasking forever to bed, embracing mindfulness and managed attention. Another three simple steps and we are well on our way!
- Determine your priorities and develop a disciplined routine that allots appropriate time and resources to complete tasks.
- Set healthy boundaries that allow you to remain focused and within your routine.
- Communicate those boundaries to the important people in your life.
How might this work in the email example above? If you’ve decided that email needs to get answered, then you first set the routine. I’m going to take the next 20 minutes to respond to this email. Then, you set boundaries that allow you to move through that routine. Maybe you close your door, put your phone on “do not disturb,” and close any open applications. You would also have to communicate those boundaries to the important people in your life (your team). “Hey guys, I have an important email to answer. I’m going to go ahead and close my door and work on for the next 20 minutes or so. Please don’t interrupt me unless it’s an emergency, ok? Thanks!”
This all goes right back to Kim Buck’s book on setting healthy boundaries. It’s a theme I’m hearing over and over again lately. And as I’m just about 5 weeks into working from home, I’m realizing a mindful life isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity. Multi-tasking is not my friend. It breeds anxiety, exhaustion, mistakes and now we see, lower productivity. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
Moral of the story – Focus. One step at a time. And create the environment for yourself that allows you to manage your attention, communicating your expectations to your world.
Bonus moral! Constantly get out and about to engage and learn from other successful women who have gone before you. As a working mom and small business owner, sometimes moving at anything other than the speed of light doesn’t feel like an option, and chaos will always be the name of the game. Having the opportunity to hear a strong leader like Roberta Oster Sachs remind me to be mindful was a powerful lesson and lifesaver. Don’t miss out on the chance to learn and grow!
Top 10 Family Safety Tips from @GetReadyNowPack
Life as a busy working mom is more than hectic! The best way to combat the crazy and chaos is to do our best to prepare in advance whenever possible. Emergency preparedness is one area we often skimp in, leaving us stressed and scrambling when disaster strikes (sometimes even by our own doing!). Our friends at Get Ready Now have a few simple routines, habits and family safety tips that will keep us in control when life strikes back.
Regular Car Check Ups
We’ll admit, guilty as charged! We often overlook the basic maintenance that keeps our car running and in tip top shape. Then, when our car decides to bite back with a little reminder about how much we’ve been neglecting it, we’re stuck in all the wrong places at all the wrong times. If you have trouble remembering to give your car some much needed love, be sure to download our Google calendar reminder list!
Keep Your Phone Fully Charged
Oops…guilty as charged again! We hate hunting down our phone chargers and have a really bad habit of tossing our phones under our pillows instead of plugging it in at night, which usually means it’s teetering near death right when we want to make an important call the next day. Invest the few dollars to keep phone chargers handy. One in the kitchen, one in the office, one in the bedroom, one in the car. Do your best to stay charged up so you have some mileage on your phone’s battery when you need it!
Stay Tuned to Weather and Disaster Warnings
We all have our phones within reach around the clock, so be sure to sign up for phone alerts or download your favorite weather app to stay in the know and be ready to move and take action when regional warnings are issued!
Have an Evacuation Plan in Place
This is a big one. Whether it’s talking about your family plan to exit the house in the event of a fire or learning your local evacuation routes and shelter locations, take time to sit down with your family and make sure everyone, young and old, understands exactly what you’ll do, where, when and how should you need to evacuate your home for any reason. This can feel like a scary conversation, especially for little ones, so we often avoid it and then reality is much, much scarier when emergency strikes and we are not prepared. Bite the bullet, map out your routes and practice it as a family!
Know How You’ll Reconnect With People Who Matter
If your phone died right now, would you know how to reach the most important people in your life? Yup, us too. Busted. Memorization not your thing? Make sure you store contact information safely in a few different places so you can reach out to friends and family in the event of an emergency from wherever you are. When it comes to evacuation and fire escapes, set up family meeting points where you will all head should you get physically separated. Plan for the worst case scenario!
Learn What to Do if You’re Caught Away From Home
This is more about having a plan A…through double ZZ. Emergencies breed fear and fear breeds panic, so our best defense is a good offense. Spend some time thinking through the different scenarios that might result in your being stuck somewhere you don’t want to be, unable to get somewhere you do what to be. What will you do? Where will you go? Confronting your fears, establishing plans and considering your options will empower you to act with clarity and purpose when life goes awry.
Have an Emergency Kit (or Ten) and Know How to Use Them
An emergency preparedness kit is only helpful if you know where it is, can easily get to it, know what’s in it and how to use it. Thankfully, our friends at Get Ready Now can help us there. They have vehicle packs, grab and go packs and have thought about everything you’ll need in an emergency from start to finish. Their bags are waterproof (win), clear (double win) and the supplies inside are good for 5 years (triple win!). Their website has complete lists and even videos detailing exactly what is in your pack and why it’s important. Use the code FREESHIP for free shipping! Woot! Woot!
Don’t Forget to Plan for Your Pets
Many of us overlook preparing in advance for what will happen with our pets in an emergency. We adore these beloved family members and can hit a wall of panic when disaster strikes and we realize we have not accounted for their needs along with our own. Make sure your emergency kits have extra pet food and include your pet care in evacuation planning and practice.
Stay in the Know and Sharpen Up on Your Emergency Skills
Are you CPR certified? Do you know how to safely perform the Heimlich Maneuver? Do you know how to start a fire outdoors? Consider signing up for a local safety or survival skills course. When disaster strikes, our knowledge base fuels our ability to stay calm and act effectively, which can save crucial time in an emergency or even save somebody’s life!
No Cheating! Check Those Smoke Detector Batteries Regularly
Admit it. We’ve all done it. It starts beeping, out of love to let us know that something’s up and it’s not in prime shape to save our lives. And we beat it to death with a stick, rip out the batteries, and cuddle back up in bed. And then leave it. And then leave it. And then leave it some more. NO MORE. Get those batteries in, set calendar reminders to test all smoke detectors regularly and keep your family safe, starting in your home, today.
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24 Super Awesome Articles for Busy Working Moms
You may have noticed a bit of feast or famine over here at Chaos & Kiddos. Why? Because we’ve been sharing the love all over! Yup, that’s right. When we’re not here actively posting, it’s usually because we have the great honor to share our voice on other platforms. We thought you might like to keep up with where we’ve been! So…check out these 24 super awesome articles for busy working moms. Enjoy!
Need a little parenting pick me up? Look no further! Grab a cup of coffee and kick back for a good read. Pick up a few tips and tricks, and give yourself a pat on the back, because you’re doing an AWESOME job.
Tell the truth…We bet you’re working too hard! It’s ok. We all do. Let’s band together and give ourselves permission for a little TLC, a whole lot more community and the opportunity to thrive professionally and personally, being our best selves for those we love most.
Our very favorite!! Sharing the tips and tricks to help your business grow, the creative ideas that are making big waves in the entrepreneurial and those little reminders that get you back on track as a motivated, focused small business owner.
Health and Wellness
Last, but certainly not least, the most important part. Staying healthy and being well. The journey towards balance is just that…a journey. Join us as we walk together towards a more meaningful, enriched life.
Do you have any super awesome articles for busy working moms? Share them below in the comments! Let’s face it, time is a hot commodity around here, and most of us don’t have time to blog hop! So…if you’ve done us the great honor by taking time out of your busy day to stop here, then THANK YOU! From the bottom of our hearts. And if you have a resource to share, please do so! Any opportunity we have to connect a resource with a need, whether it’s our information or not, is a big win for us, and for YOU!
And that’s why we’re here. For you. XOXO
5 Tips for Time Management
Let’s face it. Being a working mom can be pretty crazy sometimes. How are you supposed to fit all of your activities into one 24 hour period, and manage to get 8 hours of sleep every night?
<Sidebar: 8 hours of sleep. Every night. Wouldn’t that be nice?>
How can we keep our time properly managed in this crazy, beautiful life we live?
The internet is filled with posts about time management and how you can achieve better time management skills. Those posts are great! I’m sure they have helped loads of working women achieve balance among chaos. Instead of compiling a list of 50+ time management tips, I figured it would be beneficial to condense my most successful time management practices into 5 easy to implement tips that every mom can benefit from!
Start Organized, Stay Organized
Keeping track of your time is more than keeping an eye on the clock. Time management starts with an organized mind. A great way to keep an organized mind is to keep track of your schedule, to-dos and other objectives with a daily schedule. You can choose to use an electronic calendar, or use a traditional pen and paper method, or even a combination of the two.
Personally, I like to use Google Calendar. Google Calendar allows me to keep order amongst chaos in so many different ways. Check out this post on 10 different ways you can use Google Calendar.
Be sure to keep your workspace organized as well. An organized work space allows the mind to stay organized by focusing on achieving your daily goals without dwelling on the clutter around you.
Say No, & Mean It
As loving and caring women, we want to provide assistance to everyone and anyone. And every once in awhile that is okay! But filling your schedule with too many appointments, too many distractions, and too many favors can be a real bummer for managing your time. Especially for things that come up at the last minute.
Recognize that it is okay to say No to something that will not benefit you or your family. It is also important to embrace the fact that saying No doesn’t mean that you do not care about others, or that you feel that your objectives are more important. It simply means that you have taken the time to evaluate the cost to benefit ratio, and have found that it might not be in your family’s best interest to add one more thing to your plate. If you have trouble saying No, be sure to check out Embracing When and How To Say No.
Create A Distraction Free Zone
Distractions are the main cause of poor time management. Distractions can be spontaneous (phone calls from a client, your toddler pouring the dog water all over the floor [again], etc), or self-induced (procrastination). A distraction free zone can help you to focus on the task at hand, and benefit from the increased productivity that will result.
In order to create a distraction free zone, start by identifying your most productive space in your home; the space where you feel like you get the most done. This could be your office, your kitchen, your porch, anywhere that you feel productive. Make this space more productive by taking steps to eliminate physical and electronic distractions.
Be sure to let your family know where your distraction free zone is, and let them know it is important to you that you remain distraction free when you are in this space (unless it is an emergency). Turn off electronic distractions by keep your phone turned off when you are in your distraction free zone. Also, be sure to turn off desktop notifications that are potentially distracting (emails, calendar reminders, and social media notifications).
If you need a little extra help staying off of social media while you are working, check out the variety of apps that will curb your social media enthusiasm, including SelfControl for Apple products, and KeepMeOut.com for all platforms.
Identify Time-Vacuums In Your Life
Time-vacuums are things in your life that suck time like a Dyson sucks spilled cheerios. Time-vacuums can including meetings, social media, work tasks, and people. Yes, certain people can be a HUGE time suck for you, and can wreak havoc on your time management abilities.
By identifying these time-vacuums, you will be better equipped to keep your time-vacuums at bay, or even eliminate them completely from your life. By managing your time-vacuums, you’ll be able to keep your distraction free zone free and clear of any impending black holes that will devour your time.
Schedule Family Time & You Time
Probably the most important aspect of time management is being able to schedule time for yourself and time for your family. Be sure to schedule a little bit of detox time for yourself every day, even if it’s only 15-30 minutes of exercise, a cat nap, catching up on the latest episode of your favorite show, or stepping out to your favorite salon to get your nails touched up. You are an amazing woman, and you deserve a little bit of time to unwind!
Scheduling time with your family is so important to better time management. View your family time as a reward for working hard and kicking butt! Your family loves you, and they are proud of you! Keeping up with family traditions and making time to show your love and appreciation for your kids, your spouse, and other important people in your life allows you to practice an attitude of gratitude. Gratitude for your family. Gratitude for your friends. Gratitude for your beautiful life.