Please join me in welcoming guest blogger, Kaitlin Gardner, from An Apple Per Day! She’s here with us today to share some quick tips and tricks for easy exercise routines for the busy, working mom. As a former half-marathon runner and avid yogi, the lack of exercise I get these days is a constant frustration. Admittedly, I’ve probably slacked off more than I needed to, and Kaitlin’s great tips have motivated me to make the most of what little time I may have to exercise and stay fit. I feel better emotionally and physically when I do, and a better me makes me a better mom!
We’ve all heard the phrase, “killing two birds with one stone.” Well, for me, one of those “birds” is exercise and that “stone” is time: With one block of time, in fact, as little as thirty minutes, you can incorporate exercise into your day on a regular basis. Think you don’t have time? Too many kids? Too much work? Read on for more ideas on how to incorporate exercise into your busy life, complete with kids, house, yard, animals, work and all!
It’s a rare moment when I don’t have a full “to do” list bearing down on me. But it doesn’t stop me from squeezing in some exercise; in fact, the busier I get, the more protective of my exercise time I become. Why? Because, as another popular saying goes, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!” So I suppose that the best trick to finding time to exercise is really no trick at all: it’s a choice to protect a little time every day for exercise. Think of it as an important appointment that all other tasks must be scheduled around. Once you have chosen to make some amount of exercise part of every day, even 15 minutes of stretching, you are half-way there.
Back to Two Birds, One Stone
Once you’ve made the decision to exercise regularly, give yourself the best chance of success by finding clever ways to incorporate it into your regular (busy) routine. One of my favorite tricks for blending a busy life and exercise is by overlapping my exercise time with something enjoyable, which takes my mind off the to-do list. Occasionally, I steal away a few moments to really be present in my workout, but for me, at least while my kids are young, exercise is a means to an end. That said, here are a few of my favorite ways to get all the jobs done.
Embrace Modern Technology – Indoors and Out!
First, I set my DVR to record automatically the two or three shows each week that I absolutely don’t want to miss. When I’m ready to hit the treadmill or do some yoga and stretching, I turn on the TV in our game room and not only do I exercise while watching my favorite program, but the time flies! In fact, I’ve noticed that I exercise longer, on average, when I’m doing it while watching the TV!
For outdoor activity, don’t forget the smartphone. In addition to letting the music serve as your distraction while you log the laps, try tuning into a local talk show, TED talk, or podcast (downloadable to your phone for listening at your convenience). When I’m distracted by listening to an engaging conversation or my favorite music, I’m motivated to run or walk for far longer than I would have without them. Need dinner ideas? Find a cooking podcast and find out what’s for dinner while you garden!
If you have a backyard pool, and children, chances are you spend a considerable amount of time supervising. Aqua aerobics is a great way to build muscle tone and burn calories while the kids are having their fun splashing around you. Water’s natural resistance will give simple leg lifts and arm circles in chest deep water a whole new meaning!
Outside Watering the Flowers? Don’t Just Stand There!
For the Calves
Keep a cinder block or brick in the area where you normally stand, or near where you are watering. Stand on the block and the balls of your feet and lower your heels to the ground, then back up. If balance is an issue, place the brick near a post or fence; just one or two fingers on a stationary object is plenty to keep you balanced. Doing three sets of 12 of these, three days a week will do wonders for your calves!
Squats and Lunges for the Upper Legs
For a great upper legs and butt workout while the planters are filling, do three sets of ten squats or lunges. Walk a line of lunges around your garden or yard, or stay in place.
For When You Have a Little More Time…
If you have a little more time on your hands to truly get into the exercise moment, so to speak, but joining a gym is out of the question, don’t worry; with most cable packages today, there are exercise channels that feature 24-hour yoga, Zumba, or aerobics workouts that you can watch in the privacy of your own home, and without the travel time. Just set the DVR and then tune in when it’s convenient for you.
Remember, getting into shape starts in your mind: Make a decision to do it and then use the resources that are at your finger (and toe) tips! No need for a special wardrobe, monthly dues or traveling across town.
Kaitlin Gardner started AnApplePerDay.com to further her passion for a family friendly, green living lifestyle. She is married to her college sweetheart and lives in Pennsylvania. She and her husband enjoy going for long hikes, to get out and enjoy nature. She is working on her first book about ways to live an eco-friendly, healthy, natural life.
Self Care Tips for Working Moms
Being a single working mom of twins and a teenager means I often put myself at the bottom of the to do list. Whether I’m playing chef, chauffeur, bandager of boo boos or homework advisor, the hat I put on least often is woman. As a married working mom, I practically forgot I was a beautiful woman and wife. As a single working mom, I struggle to embrace myself as a confident available woman. Focused mainly on carrying my family through the days, I forget that taking the time to focus on myself every once in awhile ultimately makes me a better parent. Here are some fun self care tips for working moms that could spark that little feisty woman you know is in there but haven’t seen in forever.
1. Boudoir Shoot: Yup. I’m certain a great many of you just went “Yeah, right. Thanks for nothing.” WAIT! Seriously…I know this is what I do for a living, and I’m not listing this one at the top of the list as a shameless plug. I’m listing it at the top of the list because of the why behind what I do as a photographer. Our tagline at Modern Femme Photography is “because you deserve to feel beautiful.” A boudoir shoot is a fabulous way to celebrate and embrace your unique journey as a woman, be pampered, but most importantly, be reminded that you are beautiful, just as you are. And because it’s important to practice what you preach, I hopped in front of the camera a couple of weeks ago as part of a two-session process I’ve planned to reclaim my confidence and self-worth as a newly single woman.
2. Support Group: We have a great online community growing at Working Moms United that gives support and encouragement at those low points where being a work mom chips away at your energy, self-esteem and willpower. It’s a wonderful resource for moms on-the-go who need a pep talk but can only pop online here and there or might not have available time to meet up with others. I’ve also recently joined a local church and have been attending their quarterly women’s brunches. They provide child care for a few hours while I sit and chat with other women, feel refreshed and feel supported in prayer as a woman of faith. I’ve also identified a few key accountability partners in my life. Girl friends with similar life circumstances who can serve as trusted encouragers and keep me on track.
3. Learn Something New: Switching up the routine and enjoying something fresh and new can be a great way to recharge. Recently, I booked a makeup lesson with Dhalia Edwards of The Bride’s Corner. Dhalia is not only a dear friend of mine, but she’s incredibly talented both in her technique and her warm-hearted care of her clients. She patiently took 3 hours of her day to sift through my old, dated make up, repurpose old tools for new styles and teach me proper application techniques for everyday looks. Not only did I feel pampered and pretty when I left, but I felt rejuvenated and more confident in how to achieve a flawless look on my own.
4. Schedule Quiet Time: Spare minutes are a hot commodity for the working mom. Every second of every day feels tied to a never-ending to do list that typically revolves around everyone other than yourself. You need to make a choice to declare a bit of each day for yourself. Whether it’s 5 minutes, 20 minutes or the luxurious full hour, diligently schedule quiet time. Take the time to breathe in the quiet, write in a journal, pray, speak out gratitudes, do a few yoga stretches…whatever your peace may be. Do not allow yourself to skimp on this part of your day.
Remember, the first step towards being a better mom is being a better you. That better you needs some TLC! It may feel overwhelming or even scary to put any of these self care tips for workings moms into practice, but trust me, you’ll be glad that you did. Remember the positive, reclaim your beauty, refresh your soul and recharge!
Year-End Money Tips for Working Moms and Female Entrepreneurs
I don’t know about you but the end of the year brings two thoughts…well, three thoughts for me. One, CHRISTMAS!!!!! Two, fresh start on January 1st! And three, holy cow, what’s my money situation? Taxes are coming.
A big, big thank you to Kristen Robinson, SVP of Women and Young Investors at Fidelity Investments for taking the time to develop these year-end money tips for working moms and female entrepreneurs!
2 Tips for Female Business Owners / Entrepreneurs:
Keep Your Future in Mind with the Right Retirement Account for Your Needs
- Look into the different plans available to business owners, such as a 401(k) for Small Business, a self-employed 401(k), SEP IRA or SIMPLE IRA. You may need to appoint a plan administrator- someone who takes care of administrative responsibilities and ensures the plan is operating according to the Plan Document. Learn more about these different types of accounts here.
- Contribute to your account. The deadline for depositing employer profit-sharing contributions for the current calendar year is generally the business’ tax-filing deadline, plus extensions (for unincorporated businesses, this date is usually April 15 of the following year, plus any extensions).
- If you own a business, have you considered how best to plan for the future? If you plan to keep it in the family, consider creating a structure that makes it easier to transfer the business’s assets to other family members, such as a family limited partnership or a family limited liability company.
- There are many options; your attorney or tax adviser can help you select one that is appropriate for you in light of your specific situation.
4 Tips for Single Moms:
Get Involved in Your Family’s Finances
- It’s important to have a full picture of the family financial situation. At minimum, know what accounts you have and with whom. That includes banks and investing accounts, life insurance, mortgages, and loans. Having a handle on this information is an important foundation as you plan for the future, and can bring greater peace of mind.
(EDITOR’S NOTE: Yes! Yes! Yes! I am still getting a grip on my finances after the divorce. I realize now how little I knew before and how problematic that can be.)
Save for Retirement
- Retirement is not a destination but a journey, and it’s never too early – or too late – to start putting away savings for the future. Along the way, there are myriad opportunities to get off the path—and back on it. And at virtually any turn in the road, there are possibilities to speed up your progress.
- Make it a goal to save 15% or more of your income each year. If that’s not reachable today, make sure to make it a priority to carve out what you can. Even smaller amounts will add up over time.
- Aim to have no more than 50% of your take-home pay go toward your “must-have” expenses.
Try to Save Three to Six Months of Essential Expenses in an Emergency Fund.
Look for Growth Potential from your Investments
- Knowing your financial personality can help you determine the right mix of stocks, bonds and short-term investments that match how comfortable you are with risk, and have the growth potential to meet your life’s needs, be that when you want to retire or when you want to send kids to college.
- If you’re not sure where to start, read up online, or reach out to a professional. There’s never a fee to come into Fidelity to talk to a financial planner, but we do recommend you reevaluate twice a year. Just like you take care of your physical health by visiting the doctor and dentist, think of this as taking care of your financial health, which is vitally important as well.
Protect your Legacy
- In order to ensure that what you’ve accumulated is distributed to your children, family and causes you care about most, it is important to name beneficiaries and create a will and health care proxy. Yes, it can be uncomfortable to think about the ‘what it’s,’ but it’s important to be prepared for the unknown. Do you really want someone else making these decisions for you?
Be Kind To Yourself: Words of Wisdom from Alyssa Milano
I had the opportunity to chat with actress and working mom, Alyssa Milano, last week as she celebrated her new role as “Mom-Bassador” for the Sprout channel’s 10 year anniversary. I had the opportunity to ask her a few questions about her life as a working mom and her answers always centered around one fundamental rule: Be Kind to Yourself.
I thought this was especially powerful, because as mothers, we so often overlook self-care as we race around taking care of everyone else around us. Her words rang true as she reminded me that I can’t be my best mom if I’m not my best me. So what does motherhood look like for Alyssa Milano?
Things are Always in Motion
You have to be able to shift and make changes, go with the flow! Just when you think you’ve got a routine down…there it goes. Having kids will always keep you guessing and send you moving in new directions into uncharted territory. Be flexible and allow yourself to embrace change. Don’t hold too firmly to what you think you know – Change will always be in process and something’s got to give in order to keep moving forward. You are a great mom and you are doing the best you can right now in this moment. Be kind to yourself, releasing the pressure to be perfect and releasing the guilt when you inevitably fall short of that unnatural expectation. You are a great mom.
Healthy Mom = Healthy Childhood
Alyssa Milano clings to two “must-haves” in her daily routine as a busy, working mom. This type of consistency helps her be her best self, which makes her the best mom that she can be for her children. By being kind to herself, she keeps her mental health sacred so that her children experience the best childhood possible. What are the two “must-haves” Alyssa Milano can’t live without?
- Break a sweat. She puts aside 45 minutes to an hour every day to get moving. Whether she goes to the gym for a workout or simply takes a walk, she focuses on taking care of her body and keeping a level head with some healthy movement each and every day. If she has busy weeks with jobs, meetings or events, she schedules it into her day like it’s part of her job or another appointment. It’s not optional.
- Keep the bedtime routine solid. The children go to bed at the same time every night. The routine is solid, it’s something they expect and she sticks closely to it. After 7:30PM each night, it’s time for her and her husband. Quality time that is kind to both of them, keeping their marriage strong and setting a solid example for their children in love and commitment. Carving out time for her husband with a regular routine makes sure that life as a busy working mom doesn’t accidentally let her marriage slip away.
When was the last time you were kind to yourself? What simple changes can you make in your perspective as a busy, working mom to focus more on self-care and less on burn out? It’s encouraging to see working moms like Alyssa Milano step up to the plate to send a clear message to society – Being a mom means so much more than trying to be everything to everyone all the time. Being a mom means taking care with yourself, making sure you are equipped with the love and energy to pour into your family in a meaningful way. You’re doing a great job, mom. Yes, you! Go ahead, pat yourself on the back.