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YUCK. Life with Boys.

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YUCK. Life with Boys | Chaos & Kiddos: Mommy's Survival Guide

So the other day B sneezed in my mouth. Literally. For a split second I thought “So, this is what life has come to.” And subsequently, as I sit typing this out, I’m enjoying my own version of their weeklong super bug while they prance around like energizer bunnies, high on life, happy and healthy, with not even the remotest concern that Mommy is near death thanks to B’s generous contribution, which he labeled as “I kiss my mommy.”

Last weekend I was driving J to the doctor’s and he projectile vomited everything he had eaten in the past 3 months all over my car. As I stood on the side of the road, with a naked baby and no extra set of clothes, and shoveled nastiness out onto the pavement with nothing but a handful of wipes, embarrassed, anxious, thoroughly grossed out, I thought many words, in truth most of which rhymed with “yuck.”

Then there was the time that B kept running back and forth going “Mommy, look!” and then licking his hands. I wish I could say licking was unusual in our household, but it’s not. On the fifth or sixth lap of this, I thought “His hand looks awful wet. That’s kinda weird.” So I stood up to watch him run his next lap. Straight to the dog bowl. Which he dipped his hand in. And then licked.

Years before the boys were even on the radar, I remember walking out of a yoga class with a friend, as she finished her story with “We were leaving Walmart and as we drove away I looked in the mirror to check on the kids. G was licking the bottom of his Crocs. After walking all through Walmart. And I thought to myself ‘Well, if he doesn’t die from that, we’ll survive just about anything.'” At the time I was all “Oh man! That’s so nasty!” These days, I think my reply would be “I know, right?”

Boys are gloriously yucky. They come into this world looking for dirt to roll in. Or in my case, lick. It’s been a huge mind shift for this OCD mama who sanitized the kitchen counters and bathrooms every Saturday morning before they were born. Now, I just roll with the punches. And the odors. And the epic blowouts. Then I scoop them up and go “Kiss mommy again! I love you.”

What is your yuckiest kiddo moment?

Yuck. Life with Boys.
Photo Courtesy of Somer Anne Photography

 

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  1. Michelle Caskey

    August 19, 2014 at 9:11 am

    Ha ha ha! Funny! My boys always say they don’t need a napkin because they have their tongues… and proceed to lick all around their mouths to get rid of any excess food (or whatever.) Boys are hilarious!

    • Katy Blevins

      September 1, 2014 at 8:13 am

      That totally sounds like something my boys would say! Ha!

  2. keitha (The Bajan Texan)

    September 19, 2014 at 11:20 am

    lol too funny! I like the blog redesign too Katy. Talk with ya soon.

  3. Tina Ernspiker

    September 21, 2014 at 3:03 am

    This is an awesome article!! I loved it because it’s so honest and true. But I will tell you it’s not just boys… my girls are 10 and 9 and just as yucky… haha! As a toddler Alexis ate a bug off the floor and Taylor was found head first in the kitty litter… fun times!

    • Katy Blevins

      September 23, 2014 at 4:52 pm

      Ha ha ha ha ha, that totally made me burst out laughing at my desk! Admittedly, I’m kind of surprised no one’s eaten any bugs yet in my household. We have sampled dog and fish food however. ūüėČ

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Self Care Tips for Working Moms

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Self Care Tips for Working Moms

Being a single working mom of twins and a teenager means I often put myself at the bottom of the to do list. Whether I’m playing chef, chauffeur, bandager of boo boos or homework advisor, the hat I put on least often is woman. As a married working mom, I practically forgot I was a beautiful woman and wife. As a single working mom, I struggle to embrace myself as a confident available woman. Focused mainly on carrying my¬†family through the days, I forget that taking the time to focus on myself every once in awhile¬†ultimately makes me a better parent. Here are some fun self care tips for working moms that could spark that little feisty woman you know is in there but haven’t seen in forever.

Self Care Tips for Working Moms

¬†1. Boudoir Shoot: Yup. I’m certain a great many of you just went “Yeah, right. Thanks for nothing.” WAIT! Seriously…I know this is what I do for a living, and I’m not listing this one at the top of the list as a shameless plug. I’m listing it at the top of the list because of the why behind what I do as a photographer. Our tagline at Modern Femme Photography is “because you deserve to feel beautiful.” A boudoir shoot is a fabulous way to celebrate and embrace your unique journey¬†as a woman, be pampered, but most importantly, be reminded that you are beautiful, just as you are. And because it’s important to practice what you preach, I hopped in front of the camera a couple of weeks ago as part of a two-session process I’ve planned to reclaim my confidence and self-worth as a newly single woman.

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2. Support Group: We have a great online community growing at Working Moms United¬†that gives support and encouragement at those low points where being a work mom chips away at your energy, self-esteem and willpower. It’s a wonderful resource for moms on-the-go who need a pep talk but can only pop online here and there¬†or¬†might not have available time to meet up with others. I’ve also recently joined a local church and have been attending their quarterly women’s brunches. They provide child care for a few hours while I sit and chat with other women, feel refreshed and feel supported in prayer as a woman of faith. I’ve also identified a few key accountability partners in my life. Girl friends with similar life circumstances who can serve as trusted encouragers and keep me on track.

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3. Learn Something New: Switching up the routine and enjoying something fresh and new can be a great way to recharge. Recently, I booked a makeup lesson with Dhalia Edwards of The Bride’s Corner. Dhalia is not only a dear friend of mine, but she’s incredibly talented both in her technique and her warm-hearted care of her clients. She patiently took 3 hours of her day to sift through my old, dated make up, repurpose old tools for new styles and teach me proper application techniques for everyday looks. Not only did I feel pampered and pretty when I left, but I felt rejuvenated and more confident in how to achieve a flawless look on my own.

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4. Schedule Quiet Time: Spare minutes are a hot commodity for the working mom. Every second of every day feels tied to a never-ending to do list that typically revolves around everyone other than yourself. You need to make a choice to declare a bit of each day for yourself. Whether it’s 5 minutes, 20 minutes or the luxurious full hour, diligently schedule quiet time. Take the time to breathe in the quiet, write in a journal, pray, speak out gratitudes, do a few yoga stretches…whatever your peace may be. Do not allow yourself to skimp on this part of your day.

Self Care Tips for Working Moms

Remember, the first step towards being a better mom is being a better you. That better you needs some TLC! It may feel overwhelming or even scary to put any of these self care tips for workings moms into practice, but trust me, you’ll be glad that you did. Remember¬†the positive, reclaim your beauty,¬†refresh your soul and recharge!

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Year-End Money Tips for Working Moms and Female Entrepreneurs

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Money Tips for Working Moms

I don’t know about you but the end of the year brings two thoughts…well, three thoughts for me. One, CHRISTMAS!!!!! Two, fresh start on January 1st! And three, holy cow, what’s my money situation? Taxes are coming.

A big, big thank you to Kristen Robinson, SVP of Women and Young Investors at Fidelity Investments for taking the time to develop these year-end money tips for working moms and female entrepreneurs!

Money Tips for Working Moms

2 Tips for Female Business Owners / Entrepreneurs:

Keep Your Future in Mind with the Right Retirement Account for Your Needs

  • Look into the different plans available to business owners, such as a 401(k) for Small Business, a self-employed 401(k), SEP IRA or SIMPLE IRA. ¬†You may need to appoint a plan administrator- someone who takes care of administrative responsibilities and ensures the plan is operating according to the Plan Document. ¬†Learn more about these different types of accounts here. ¬†
  • Contribute to your account. The deadline for depositing employer profit-sharing contributions for the current calendar year is generally the business‚Äô tax-filing deadline, plus extensions (for unincorporated businesses, this date is usually April 15 of the following year, plus any extensions).

Business Succession

  • If you own a business, have you considered how best to plan for the future? ¬†If you plan to keep it in the family, consider creating a structure that makes it easier to transfer the business‚Äôs assets to other family members, such as a family limited partnership or a family limited liability company.
  • There are many options; your attorney or tax adviser can help you select one that is appropriate for you in light of your specific situation.

4 Tips for Single Moms:

Get Involved in Your Family’s Finances

  • It‚Äôs important to have a full picture of the family financial situation. At minimum, know what accounts you have and with whom. That includes banks and investing accounts, life insurance, mortgages, and loans. Having a handle on this information is an important foundation as you plan for the future, and can bring greater peace of mind.

(EDITOR’S NOTE: Yes! Yes! Yes! I am still getting a grip on my finances after the divorce. I realize now how little I knew before and how problematic that can be.)

Money Tips for Working Moms

Save for Retirement

    • Retirement is not a destination but a journey, and it‚Äôs never too early ‚Äď or too late ‚Äď to start putting away savings for the future. ¬†Along the way, there are myriad opportunities to get off the path‚ÄĒand back on it. ¬†And at virtually any turn in the road, there are possibilities to speed up your progress.
      • Make it a goal to save¬†15%¬†or more of your income each year. If that‚Äôs not reachable today, make sure to make it a priority to carve out what you can. Even smaller amounts will add up over time.
      • Aim to have no more than¬†50%¬†of your take-home pay go toward your ‚Äúmust-have‚ÄĚ expenses.

Try to Save Three to Six Months of Essential Expenses in an Emergency Fund.

Look for Growth Potential from your Investments

  • Knowing your financial personality can help you determine the right mix of stocks, bonds and short-term investments that match how comfortable you are with risk, and have the growth potential to meet your life‚Äôs needs, be that when you want to retire or when you want to send kids to college.
  • If you‚Äôre not sure where to start, read up online, or reach out to a professional. ¬†There‚Äôs never a fee to come into Fidelity to talk to a financial planner, but we do recommend you reevaluate twice a year. Just like you take care of your physical health by visiting the doctor and dentist, think of this as taking care of your financial health, which is vitally important as well.

Protect your Legacy

  • In order to ensure that what you’ve accumulated is distributed to your children, family and causes you care about most, it is important to name beneficiaries and create a will and health care proxy. Yes, it can be uncomfortable to think about the ‚Äėwhat it‚Äôs,‚Äô but it‚Äôs important to be prepared for the unknown. Do you really want someone else making these decisions for you?

 

 

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Be Kind To Yourself: Words of Wisdom from Alyssa Milano

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Be Kind to Yourself | Alyssa Milano | Sprout Mom-Bassador

I had the opportunity to chat with actress and working mom, Alyssa Milano, last week as she celebrated her new role as “Mom-Bassador” for the Sprout channel’s 10 year anniversary. I had the opportunity to ask her a few questions about her life as a working mom and her answers always centered around one fundamental rule: Be Kind to Yourself.

Be Kind to Yourself | Alyssa Milano | Sprout Mom-Bassador

I thought this was especially powerful, because as mothers, we so often overlook self-care as we race around taking care of everyone else around us. Her words rang true as she reminded me that I can’t be my best mom if I’m not my best me. So what does motherhood look like for Alyssa Milano?

Things are Always in Motion

You have to be able to shift and make changes, go with the flow! Just when you think you’ve got a routine down…there it goes. Having kids will always keep you guessing and send you moving in new directions into uncharted territory. Be flexible and allow yourself to embrace change. Don’t hold too firmly to what you think you know – Change will always be in process and something’s got to give in order to keep moving forward. You are a great mom and you are doing the best you can right now in this moment. Be kind to yourself, releasing the pressure to be perfect and releasing the guilt when you inevitably fall short of that unnatural expectation. You are a great mom.

Healthy Mom = Healthy Childhood

Alyssa Milano clings to two “must-haves” in her daily routine as a busy, working mom. This type of consistency helps her be her best self, which makes her the best mom that she can be for her children. By being kind to herself, she keeps her mental health sacred so that her children experience the best childhood possible. What are the¬†two “must-haves” Alyssa Milano can’t live without?

  • Break a sweat. She puts aside 45 minutes to an hour every day to get moving. Whether she goes to the gym for a workout or simply takes a walk, she focuses on taking care of her body and keeping a level¬†head with some healthy movement each and every day. If she has busy weeks with jobs, meetings or events, she schedules it into her day like it’s part of her job or another appointment. It’s not optional.
  • Keep the bedtime routine solid. The children go to bed at the same time every night. The routine is solid, it’s something they expect and she sticks closely to it. After 7:30PM each night, it’s time for her and her husband. Quality time that is kind to both of them, keeping their marriage strong and setting a solid example for their children in love and commitment. Carving out time for her husband with a regular routine makes sure that life as a busy working mom doesn’t accidentally let her marriage slip away.

When was the last time you were kind to yourself? What simple changes can you make in your perspective as a busy, working mom to focus more on self-care and less on burn out? It’s encouraging to see working moms like Alyssa Milano step up to the plate to send a clear message to society – Being a mom means so much more than trying to be¬†everything to everyone all the time. Being a mom means taking care¬†with yourself, making sure you are equipped¬†with the love and energy to pour into your family in a meaningful way. You’re doing a great job, mom. Yes, you! Go ahead, pat yourself on the back.

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